Love is not judgmental. Therefore, to say that you should not love someone who does not love you back is incorrect. By picking and choosing in that way, the emotion seizes to be love. It becomes nepotism. Contingent upon their reciprocation of your feelings. As opposed to love which is born of truth. Independent of what they think, how they feel, what they say and do not say, as well as what they do and do not do. Love in regards to friends, family, partners, and humanity alike. This principle is consistent throughout.
To take things a step further. People (especially those in romantic relationships) often get caught up and associate themselves so strongly with the bond that they form with the person that they are in love with. That they forget that it is the person they should love more and not the bond they share(d).
You may be asking yourselves "How is the bond and the person you form it with a separate entity?" The answer is this. The distinguishing differences between a bond and a person. Is that the bond is the various memories and associations we have created over time with this person. Whereas the person as them self in their entirety, are the qualities about them that made these memories and associations to form a bond in the first place possible.
So ask yourselves now. Are you more in love with this person? or Are you more in love with the bond that you and this person share(d)?
Why does it matter? Because by loving the person more than the bond. It will naturally and easily put you in a position where you have the mindset to do what is best for them (the person). Whereas by loving the bond more than the person. It will just as naturally and easily put you in a position where you have the mindset to do what is best for you (the bond, specifically your reluctance of damaging it and/or losing it in someway).
Therefore,
True Love =
Loving the person more than you love the bond.
(In other words. Doing what is best for them (the person), and not what is best for you (the bond).)
You might be asking yourselves "But if I do what is best for them, and not what is best for the bond. Is that not unfair and unhealthy?" Keep in mind the word "best", most of the time doing what is truly best for others. Naturally involves us making positive and healthy decisions for ourselves anyways.
Therefore, everyone benefits in the most profound and meaningful of ways.
To take it yet another step further. Your example of Judgmental Love Influences Others to Do and Be the Same. It Influences Your Friends, Family, Partner, and Other Members of Humanity to Do and Be the Same.
http://0heavyfeather0.blogspot.com/2013/06/love-is-not-judgmental-pt2-pg17.html
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